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Writer's pictureDr. Sonya Bhatia

Navigating Divorce and Separation: A Guide for Talking to Children

As a child psychologist, one of the most sensitive and crucial conversations I have with parents is about how to talk to children about divorce or separation. Addressing this topic at different developmental stages requires careful consideration of a child’s emotional maturity, understanding, and ability to process complex emotions. Please call Naples Behavioral Pediatric Therapy (239.922.1440) if you would like to schedule a parent appointment to discuss recommendations for supporting your child(ren). 


Early Childhood (Ages 2-5)

Children in this age group may have limited understanding of abstract concepts like divorce. Keep explanations simple and concrete by using age- appropriate language, reassuring stability, and validating feelings.

 

Middle Childhood (Ages 6-12)

Children in this age group have a better understanding of cause and effect and may fear the implications of divorce more deeply. Support children in this age range by using age-appropriate language, listening attentively to their concerns and questions, validating their emotions, and maintaining routines. Avoid blaming or criticizing the other parent.

 

Adolescence (Ages 13-18)

Teenagers may have a deeper emotional response to divorce and separation, often grappling with more complex feelings of loss, anger, and guilt. Supporting teenagers involves allowing them to express their emotions and validating their feelings without judgement, active listening, providing information about changes in family dynamics and living arrangements, and respecting teenagers’ need for privacy and independence while reassuring them of ongoing parental support and involvement.

 

General Tips for All Ages

  • Let children be children: Limit changes due to the divorce, refrain from exposing children to direct and indirect parental conflict, maintain consistent routines and discipline as much as possible, do not use children as messengers or spies, do not use children as allies in parental battles, do not put down the other parent in front of the child, and do not burden the child with your own personal fears or concerns.

  • Emphasize unconditional love: Reassure children that the divorce is not their fault and that both parents will continue to love them unconditionally.

  • Offer professional support: If children are struggling to cope with the emotional impact of divorce, consider seeking support from a child psychologist or counselor who specializes in adjustment and divorce-related issues. Contact Naples Behavioral Pediatric Therapy (239.922.1440) for support.

 

Final Thoughts

Navigating conversations about divorce and separation with children requires sensitivity, developmentally appropriate communication, and patience. By providing age-appropriate information and support, parents can foster resilience and emotional well-being in their children during and after the transition. Remember, each child’s response to separation and divorce is unique, and providing a supportive environment can make a meaningful difference in their adjustment process.



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